Thursday, March 28, 2013

Think Out Loud [3] "That Girl is Pretty"

First crushes, a bright red convertible, and a woman's walk. Today's Think Out Loud is inspired by my 4 year old's immediate response to a woman crossing the street yesterday. I noticed her too, not because she was striking, although she was pretty, and not because she had some mysterious "it" factor. She exuded an arrogance I admired, the sort of air that said, "Look or don't, but you probably will." My son looked and said, "That girl is pretty." Not exactly a crush, but let me tell you, give him five minutes in her presence and he'd model his first five girlfriends after this woman. My mind wandered to my first crush. I was five years old. The man had a bright red convertible. Superficial thing I was. The car helped, but it was the confidence I responded to. The barely there smile. The tall shoulders and confident walk. In college, a guy once mentioned my walk. He'd just told me he spotted me from my walk. The way he said it turned me into a shy girl on the spot. I should have asked him to explain what he meant because we all have our walks. It changes with our ups and downs. Sexy, hurried, dejected, injured. I wonder now, what kind of walk do I have? Life's been kicking my ass something fierce and I fear I'm announcing that to every stranger who glances my way. I feel like practicing in my living room. My sons would copy me. Then we'd have a trio of raised chins and swaying hips, and I'd have two little guys on their way to therapy in a few years.
 
So that's my Think Out Loud. What's on your mind? Join Think's awesome meme. Chat, rant, or ramble about anything you want, maybe something that has nothing to do with books, authors, arcs, blogs, or rafflecopters.


12 comments:

  1. I absolutely adore this. So honest and seriously made me think! I have been told I have a "certain walk" too. But that was a looong time ago. I, like you, feel I betray myself too much in body language sometimes...
    Loved the TOL!

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    1. I love this meme, Think! It's so nice to imagine what I'm going to go off on that has nothing to do with writing or someone else's writing. I think I walked like a crazy person this morning because I was thinking about it. Then I started giggling because here's this super sick girl (I'm white as a ghost right now) with a weird walk that changes incrementally.

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  2. My first crush was way older than me when I was four (I think he was 11), I told him he was my boyfriend. If I remember right, he had that swagger too. I have no idea how I walk. I do know that my body language is way off from what I'm feeling and the type of person I am. People misread me a lot. Just remember to pull your shoulders back and bit when you walk, and if you have a pair of heals (even small ones) they usually have your hips swinging the right way. Great post! Jaclyn @ JC's Book Haven

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    1. If you're shy in the slightest people misread you. I've never been very shy, but motherhood pushed me into my headspace more than ever. I don't wear any kind of heel. I bought a pair and they sit in the closet mocking me. But I'm going to work on pulling my shoulders back. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

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  3. Our body language says a lot about us, but sometimes it doesn't match how we feel. Since I'm shy, my walk and body language does give the wrong impression but I don't know how to fix it. I'm very self conscious as well, that only makes things worse. I keep saying once I'm older but I'm already 24, I don't know how age would help.

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    1. That's funny. I don't know how age will help either. Jaclyn suggested pulling the shoulders back. I'm smiling at the thought of us girls tweaking our walks and looking crazy. I love it. Walk to music in your head, a fun song that makes you happy. I'm trying that tomorrow.

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    2. Lol, that's an interesting idea about the music thing. I've heard about pulling the shoulders back but it's not as easy for me lol, I keep forgetting.

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    3. I forget about the shoulders all the time! I went on vacation this week and went snow skiing for the first time. Now that I've walked in snowboots forever, I'm so happy with my regular walk right now.

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  4. I can relate being shy myself. When I was in college, I know I had a "shy" walk, always with my head down, trying to avoid contact with people. It didn't help I was a commuter, so I never really felt like I fit in. It seemed like tons of people lived there, and I was really missing out.

    Maybe I'll practice in my living room, too. :D I like my daughter and son's walks, lol. My daughter is not like me at all in the way that I'm shy. She's completely confident, and she will stand up to anyone who tries to get to her. I admire that about her. :D

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    1. I love that you admire your daughter. Commuting in college is rough socially. I lasted one semester in the dorms. They held a building wide meeting to discuss a certain person's inability to clean the kitchen after she used it. Yikes! And they invited me too! I had to admit I was the messiest girl ever. I think us book girls should make a goal that by summer we have a walk that feels good, not shy, not introverted.

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    2. That sounds great to me! I can't wait until it's nice enough to go outside to show off my new walk. ;)

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    3. Oh, that cheers me up! How fun.

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